I’ve Lost My Identity What Have I Gained? – Expatriates Magazine

“Uprooted! Said my psychiatrist, and after spending six months in France that’s exactly how I felt”. This is how Alexandra starts her story as a spouse for over twenty years.

No job,no friends, no family and alone at home all day with three kids in an unknown country, that’s how she describes her life in a few words. She gave up her career to go overseas and, after spending more than half of her life as an expat, found she had lost her Brazilian identity without acquiring a new one. “That was the worst thing for me”, she said. But her husband had all she wanted. He had the simple advantage of going to a job every day. His days had structure. He made friends at work and he maintained his professional identity. She, on the other hand, was financially, socially and emotionally reliant on him.